Hi Gents,
Got no building to do as I'm waiting on guides to finish a couple before I tear my workshop to bits. Been playing with the camera and uploading some pics. One of the rods belonged to my late son and even after almost 20 years I still get worked up. Posted two pics that I didn't want and shouldn't be there. Appologies for that, not once but TWICE!!

Tom, can you remove them as I don't know how! Thanks.

ESFNEM Col
Port Kembla, NSW
Australia



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/23/2012 07:30AM by Col Chaseling.

Col:
Lost my son a little over a year ago now...I think I know how you feel...no apology necessary for me.

All of us who have lost children at any age, feel your pain, it is not supposed to be that way!

Hi John and Phil,
One thing I never thought about was outliving any of my kids until it happened. Takes a long time to learn to live with it and you never get over it and sometimes it's just a little thing that takes you back and the pain starts over. NEVER EVER want the police bashing on my bedroom window at 3:00am again, because it's never going to be good news.
Life goes on and you have to learn to deal with it or you turn into something you don't want to be.

ESFNEM Col
Port Kembla, NSW
Australia

Col:

Only been a year for me, but I can already tell you are 100% correct...still fighting to live with it...because I don't want to turn into something my son wouldn't want me to be. So, we just keep building rods and fishing as much as we can.

Hi John,
I really feel for you as I know what your going through even though the worst of it should be over. The only advice I can give you, as everyone is different, is not to push any of the emotions you are going through away or they'll come back in a worse form. Just take them as they come and do your best to deal with them, the rodbuilding and fishing certainly helps. One thing I did was to put a collage of photos from when he was a baby until just before he died on the living room wall as it helps to remember the "good times". That helped my wife a lot and was good for me also. Took me a long time but I finally built a rod on a blank that he bought me and another thing that helped was to post here about what happened with him and the rod. Couldn't do that for a while either and it wasn't easy but it helped me get a lot of things off my chest. If you do a search on "long build" you'll find it and there might be something in there that will help you.
Take each day as it comes and be thankful for every one of them.

ESFNEM Col
Port Kembla, NSW
Australia

"Cast all your cares, burdens and anxieties on Jesus, because he cares." 1 Peter 5:7

In Psalm 23, David writes... "He leads me beside the quiet waters, and
there he restores my soul". That was his medicine, and at the water was the place where he found restoration.

When life dealt Jesus a cruel blow and his good friend John was killed, it says... "By boat, Jesus withdrew privately to a solidary place." (Matthew 14:13). Jesus was allot like us that way... when life got hard, he retreated to quiet places... a garden... the lake... to grieve, and to think, and pray, and just work things out. So when it was his time to deal with hard things, is it any wonder Jesus would prescribe the same medicine for himself?


Cast all your burdens on Him; then they are his and no longer yours. They're too heavy to carry alone. Blessings to you, Brent